So true. We knew of an older widow who gleefully ignored the advice of her adult children and remarried the wrong suitor. It resulted in a sorrow-filled, remorseful late-in-life divorce. Lesson learned: At any age one must still seek and honor the advice given them by those who love them the most.
You never know, do you? She could have been right, and was willing to take a chance against all odds. That same loving family are offering her moral support now, no doubt.
Love this prose poem and oh ‘tis true ‘tis true 😘 When we’re young, there are always more men right around the corner, and the next corner! We blithely learn magic just happens. Later we learn to pursue it.
And I realize what I wrote isn’t always true. There are no hard and fast facts in love. A wise man used to tell me that happiness is called happiness because it happens. Love happens!, at all ages.
People do come with more “baggage” as we age. When I met my husband, I was undaunted by the fact that he had three teen children from his first marriage. But now, at my age and stage in life, I would be daunted!
(And I should say in all honesty, I did become daunted later, when we got back from our honeymoon and all lived together. It was hard for everyone. One night I left a note for one of the boys which I tried to make funny. It read: “Guess what tomorrow is: a) World War III b) Family day, and he wrote back “Sometimes they’re one and the same.” But it got better 🤗)
And are we looking for different things when we are older? Somehow I find the idea of having friends as well as solitude important. That's something I didn't consider when I was younger.
Hi Sharron! "there is always a chance to start over." It comes at such a cost, doesn't it? A friend of mine started over. She's 72, happily married now for 6 months.
Hi Karen. After her 1st marriage went bad, and her 2nd husband passed away, she put away thoughts of marriage. She said, "No more drama!" Thirty years later, she meets "him", and comes alive. She said the cost was "risking the peace of her secure, yet single life" for another marriage.
Older <often> means wiser... but not always. My Mom never did get it right and chose the big goodbye. Kids turned out ok anyway.
Good morning, Kate! Thanks for these thoughts.
So true. We knew of an older widow who gleefully ignored the advice of her adult children and remarried the wrong suitor. It resulted in a sorrow-filled, remorseful late-in-life divorce. Lesson learned: At any age one must still seek and honor the advice given them by those who love them the most.
You never know, do you? She could have been right, and was willing to take a chance against all odds. That same loving family are offering her moral support now, no doubt.
Never too late. Ms. Wolf and I are proof of that.
Wow! 😍 How old were you when you met?
I was 47.
♥️ How old was she?
When I met my husband-to-be, he was 43 and I was 28. I sometimes wonder if he would have been as initially attracted to me if I were his age.
You'll never know now.
Would she want me to say? She was a few years younger than I.
I guess there is that old adage, a woman never tells her age 😂
I am sure not telling mine. I would lose half my subscribers...
I feel that way too! Darn, we’re buying in to youth culture 🤦♀️😅
Hah. Just a f few...
Glad to hear it, John! "Sometimes the magic works, sometimes it doesn't." ( You recognize this quote?)
I don’t!
Film: Little Big Man. Native American grandfather decides it is time to die, and he lies down....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLso0ZBqOi4
I might have to see that movie!
Love this prose poem and oh ‘tis true ‘tis true 😘 When we’re young, there are always more men right around the corner, and the next corner! We blithely learn magic just happens. Later we learn to pursue it.
And I realize what I wrote isn’t always true. There are no hard and fast facts in love. A wise man used to tell me that happiness is called happiness because it happens. Love happens!, at all ages.
Ah, so very true. I wouldn't even want to consider it at this age.
People do come with more “baggage” as we age. When I met my husband, I was undaunted by the fact that he had three teen children from his first marriage. But now, at my age and stage in life, I would be daunted!
(And I should say in all honesty, I did become daunted later, when we got back from our honeymoon and all lived together. It was hard for everyone. One night I left a note for one of the boys which I tried to make funny. It read: “Guess what tomorrow is: a) World War III b) Family day, and he wrote back “Sometimes they’re one and the same.” But it got better 🤗)
My worst nightmare. (I like men, Janice, just as long as they are gone in the morning.)
Ah, but the magic never stops and "life goes on long after the thrill of living is gone." (John Mellencamp).
Such a great song!
That Mellencamp line disturbs me a little. ha ha ha
And are we looking for different things when we are older? Somehow I find the idea of having friends as well as solitude important. That's something I didn't consider when I was younger.
Such a good point!
Ah yes, the need to make wiser choices - I felt it. A great post, Sharron - you've really made me think! Thank you.
(I'm happy with the choice I made, although I was already ancient by the time I'd made it....!!!)
Ah, Rebecca, you waited for the right one. Well, worth it.
Hi Sharron! "there is always a chance to start over." It comes at such a cost, doesn't it? A friend of mine started over. She's 72, happily married now for 6 months.
Has your friend said what the cost was to her, in taking the chance and starting over in a new marriage at 72?
Hi Karen. After her 1st marriage went bad, and her 2nd husband passed away, she put away thoughts of marriage. She said, "No more drama!" Thirty years later, she meets "him", and comes alive. She said the cost was "risking the peace of her secure, yet single life" for another marriage.
Wow, what a beautiful outcome of taking a risk!!
Six months! Wow. Hooray for her! So far so good..
Love this.
Thank you, Meg.
Nice, Sharron! You have a way to go deep and get at the heart of thiings. Brava!
Thank you, CJ.
You got it right Sharron!
Ah, well, you get old, you learn something from your mistakes. Allegedly. Thank you, Linda