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Kate Henry's avatar

Older <often> means wiser... but not always. My Mom never did get it right and chose the big goodbye. Kids turned out ok anyway.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Good morning, Kate! Thanks for these thoughts.

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Linda Brown's avatar

So true. We knew of an older widow who gleefully ignored the advice of her adult children and remarried the wrong suitor. It resulted in a sorrow-filled, remorseful late-in-life divorce. Lesson learned: At any age one must still seek and honor the advice given them by those who love them the most.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

You never know, do you? She could have been right, and was willing to take a chance against all odds. That same loving family are offering her moral support now, no doubt.

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T. D. Wolf's avatar

Never too late. Ms. Wolf and I are proof of that.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

Wow! 😍 How old were you when you met?

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T. D. Wolf's avatar

I was 47.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

♥️ How old was she?

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

When I met my husband-to-be, he was 43 and I was 28. I sometimes wonder if he would have been as initially attracted to me if I were his age.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

You'll never know now.

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T. D. Wolf's avatar

Would she want me to say? She was a few years younger than I.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

I guess there is that old adage, a woman never tells her age 😂

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

I am sure not telling mine. I would lose half my subscribers...

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

I feel that way too! Darn, we’re buying in to youth culture 🤦‍♀️😅

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Hah. Just a f few...

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Glad to hear it, John! "Sometimes the magic works, sometimes it doesn't." ( You recognize this quote?)

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T. D. Wolf's avatar

I don’t!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Film: Little Big Man. Native American grandfather decides it is time to die, and he lies down....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLso0ZBqOi4

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T. D. Wolf's avatar

I might have to see that movie!

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

Love this prose poem and oh ‘tis true ‘tis true 😘 When we’re young, there are always more men right around the corner, and the next corner! We blithely learn magic just happens. Later we learn to pursue it.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

And I realize what I wrote isn’t always true. There are no hard and fast facts in love. A wise man used to tell me that happiness is called happiness because it happens. Love happens!, at all ages.

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Janice Walton's avatar

Ah, so very true. I wouldn't even want to consider it at this age.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

People do come with more “baggage” as we age. When I met my husband, I was undaunted by the fact that he had three teen children from his first marriage. But now, at my age and stage in life, I would be daunted!

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

(And I should say in all honesty, I did become daunted later, when we got back from our honeymoon and all lived together. It was hard for everyone. One night I left a note for one of the boys which I tried to make funny. It read: “Guess what tomorrow is: a) World War III b) Family day, and he wrote back “Sometimes they’re one and the same.” But it got better 🤗)

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

My worst nightmare. (I like men, Janice, just as long as they are gone in the morning.)

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Alexander Ipfelkofer's avatar

Ah, but the magic never stops and "life goes on long after the thrill of living is gone." (John Mellencamp).

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Heather Brebaugh's avatar

Such a great song!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

That Mellencamp line disturbs me a little. ha ha ha

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Heather Brebaugh's avatar

And are we looking for different things when we are older? Somehow I find the idea of having friends as well as solitude important. That's something I didn't consider when I was younger.

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Rebecca Holden's avatar

Such a good point!

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Rebecca Holden's avatar

Ah yes, the need to make wiser choices - I felt it. A great post, Sharron - you've really made me think! Thank you.

(I'm happy with the choice I made, although I was already ancient by the time I'd made it....!!!)

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Ah, Rebecca, you waited for the right one. Well, worth it.

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James Ron's avatar

Hi Sharron! "there is always a chance to start over." It comes at such a cost, doesn't it? A friend of mine started over. She's 72, happily married now for 6 months.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

Has your friend said what the cost was to her, in taking the chance and starting over in a new marriage at 72?

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James Ron's avatar

Hi Karen. After her 1st marriage went bad, and her 2nd husband passed away, she put away thoughts of marriage. She said, "No more drama!" Thirty years later, she meets "him", and comes alive. She said the cost was "risking the peace of her secure, yet single life" for another marriage.

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Karen Kenworthy's avatar

Wow, what a beautiful outcome of taking a risk!!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Six months! Wow. Hooray for her! So far so good..

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Meg Oolders's avatar

Love this.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Thank you, Meg.

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palmisanocj@yahoo.com's avatar

Nice, Sharron! You have a way to go deep and get at the heart of thiings. Brava!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Thank you, CJ.

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Linda Cardillo's avatar

You got it right Sharron!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Ah, well, you get old, you learn something from your mistakes. Allegedly. Thank you, Linda

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