The Free Gift
A Three-Minute Holiday Thought
We have far less time on this beautiful, green planet than we ever imagine, and as the new year approaches, I’d like to say just one thing to you all:
From now on, we will have no regrets. Whatever wrongs we’ve done in the past, let’s accept them as a part of learning and being human. Let’s make amends where we can, and just let the rest go.
We may have voices in our heads that ask: “Why did you do that? How could you have forgotten? Why didn’t you help? What were you thinking?” A never-ending narrative of nagging self-blame.
But let’s be thankful that it’s not too late to atone for some of our mistakes. We may owe a few apologies to people in our lives, but we know it and we can do something about it.
The sorry thing, though, and the hardest to live with, is when it is too late to make amends. For example, my mother died seven years ago … and I want her back! We have unfinished business. She told me stories about her life, but there are so many blank pages that want filling in. Now she’s gone, and they will never be known.
I write this during the holidays, only to inspire! There are people in our lives who would love a hug from us, a kind word, an apology, a show of interest, an explanation. And, if people we care about are still alive, the time to make amends or express feelings, is right now. Isn’t it?
If you’re getting together over the holidays, I suggest that it may be the perfect time to talk to your siblings, your children, or your old ones about things that are real, things that matter. Listen to them, ask them for stories, find out what’s on their minds. Tell them what you love about them, and say you’re sorry, if you need to. It is the kind of wonderful, liberating gift that we give to ourselves.
To the readers of 🌿Leaves in 43 states and 48 countries, I wish the happiest of holidays to you and to all those who love you out there wherever you may be!
Sharron in Santa Cruz.
Wise words, Sharron. And tell them you love them regardless of the petty differences.
Family is everything. Thank you for making me think, Sharron. 'Unfinished business', gosh, yes.