Will you marry me?” she asked.
“Yes,” he answered, “I will.”
He loves her. He sees a confident, beautiful woman in her, and calls her “brave” and “capable”. He likes her goofy sense of humor and the fact that she loves to sing and cannot carry a tune in a paper bag. But what he does not know about her is a lot. He doesn’t know that inside she is still a mystified little girl with myriad fears, that she can be crushed by the slightest criticism. He doesn’t know she often needs silence and solitude — and wine in order to cope. How many things about herself has she never revealed to him?
She loves him, too. If you asked her why, she’d say that he is smart and responsible and such a kind person. “He makes me feel safe,” she says, “and always laughs at my jokes!” But does she really know him? She doesn’t have any idea how insecure he can be, the self-doubt that creeps into each of his days. His tendency toward clutter. His aversion to what he believes is “women’s” work. He has kept parts of himself well-hidden, possibly even from himself.
What will happen when he discovers who she really is? And when she learns the truth of him, what then? But, really, they are no different from any other couple. Does anyone really know another person? For better or for worse, it says in the vows. Whoever wrote that was not so dumb. They’ll work it out eventually. Or they won’t.
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You've captured the inner thoughts that most people have (Or should have) as they approach such a big life decision. You are correct, one can never fully "know" someone, but you can know a lot "about" someone. You may not know in advance that she hogs the couch and puts her bare feet on your lap when you're trying to watch Yellowstone, but that's a minor thing. (Just an example, that doesn't really happen, not every night.) Haha!
They won't, most likely... my own personal experience...