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Kate Henry's avatar

I love living with a "rentable" brain. Dan knows all the stuff I don't. He shares easily but not insistantly. I have to take notes on everything and ask him the stuff he knows around here. At 65, he's as old as I am at 80. Someday I might have to do his work as well as my own. I don't know the different jobs the different tractors do, couldn't even start one, what kind of maintenance they need, or how to reset the furnace for the seasons. I wouldn't know who to hire to replace a shingle that comes off in a storm, (he put them all up there) or change out an a/c, or man-splain to a man not to mess with the landlord, how to change one of those new-fangled fuses.... He knows every wire and screw and electron in the place. I don't know who to order the best hay from. He knows the horses like I know the cats. I value every moment. As much as I know of what I know, he knows the rest right down to atomic level. Never loved anybody like I love him. Its "moochul" ))) so life is VEry good.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Thank you, Kate, for this inspiration. A perfect match, if you ask me. I'd love meeting the man, I have to say.

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Jill CampbellMason's avatar

My husband is like that. Only, not quite, ten years of marriage, but we complement one another continually. He's the practical one with the mind for detail and an engineering background. I love that he knows the stuff I don't.

Luckily, I know lots of stuff he doesn't-like languages, and writing and--what good is empathy? Oh yeah. THAT good!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Another fine match. It does my heart good to hear of it.

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Kate Henry's avatar

Another woman blessed for choosing the right match. )))))

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Wade Terry's avatar

You are not invisible to me… you are a source of inspiration and a wealth of knowledge with such an interesting history…. I love being able to be your friend.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Awww. You are too sweet, neighbor.

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Wade Terry's avatar

Not all knowledge is about ‘stuff’.

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James Ron's avatar

Hey, that guy sounds eerily like me.🤔 Ha, just kidding. But I wish I knew all that stuff without needing that smack. Good one, Sharron.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

It is the supercilious attitude that gets me, and how I can let it get under my skin. I think maybe we all have someone like this in our lives.

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Jack Jackson's avatar

I have a lot of answers; not all of them correct. I wouldn’t mind being smacked with a trout, at least I’d know someone was listening!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Ha ha ha! Yes, I can see the attraction. You are too funny, Jack!

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John E. Canuck's avatar

Great article. Thanks.

The advice " stop using all paper products " caught my eye. One of those " I stopped using paper for 30 days " articles noted that paper towels were the hardest "nyet" for that author. I found that interesting.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

I, myself, do without a whole lot of things other folks think are essential. But I still buy paper towels. I counteract the sin by reusing cereal box liners instead of buying plastic bags. ha ha ha

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Jill CampbellMason's avatar

Two minute story, but lifelong thoughts engendered!!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

👍🏻😁

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Sue Cauhape's avatar

We all know someone like that. I married one, but I don't want to smack him in the head with the trout. He also makes me laugh, so that saves him.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

There you go! Compromises. Essential to a marriage.

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Sue Cauhape's avatar

Forty-three years strong as of tomorrow.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Wow! Now that is tenacity!

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Kim Smyth's avatar

Me too. 40 years for us.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Yeow! Congratulations

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K.C. Knouse's avatar

Great topic, Sharon. In my experience, the right answer can change over time for some things. There can also be more than one right answer depending on how an individual assesses risk/reward based on their particular situation. I'd prefer someone who is humble enough to look something up to confirm their advice. I am wary of overconfident aggressive advice givers.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Oh yeah. My hair dresser has been giving me medical advice for 17 years. Her education does not go beyond getting her GED.... But, I wouldn't ask my doctor for hair styling advice, either, would I? The ones I get a kick out of are the people who give me political advice because of something they heard on tok-tok. 😬

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Yael Gelardin's avatar

Well, that’s tough! Nobody likes à know-it-all! I can understand your frustration . You’re mad and envy him.!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

He means well, I know, and I appreciate learning new stuff. It is the arrogant attitude I can’t tolerate, the insulting of my intelligence. I am sure you have felt the same when dealing with certain people. Thanks for reading my little rants, Yael.

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Jim Cummings's avatar

That invisible woman in unit #10 sure writes a good story!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Hah! My work is very manic/depressive these days, running from ridiculous to philosophical to dark.. Just finished a very short ( dark ) piece for Saturday. I feel confident with it. Fourth of July: careful with that extreme barbecuing!

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Jim Cummings's avatar

Ha! How did you know? We’re having the whole neighborhood over. Gotta check my fire extinguishers!

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Linda Cardillo's avatar

I enjoy being that woman who doesn't know where I am going, what I am doing. Life can be such a joy that way after years of thinking I had all the answers

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

It's a whole new way of looking at life!

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Rebecca Holden's avatar

Ha! I think we all need to be carrying that large trout around with us just in case, Sharron! A brilliant - and, as always, thought provoking - story!

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

Thank you, sweet girl.

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